How to Stop Anxiety Telling Yourself That You’re Not Good Enough
Being a freelancer or entrepreneur can be tough, if you are a small business, it might just be you, and that can be pretty isolating. Add to that the pressure of trying to work and bring up your family and you can sometimes find the anxiety voice in the back of your head challenging everything you do. Often we worry that we are not good enough, perhaps you feel torn between the need to earn a living and the urge to be with your children more often or maybe you feel you cannot compete with other businesses in the area. Whatever your fears are they can become genuine and leave us feeling second rate. So just how do you stop anxiety telling you that you’re not good enough?
Don’t Sweat the Size Difference
Ok, you are a one man (or woman) band, so what? Just because you know of other larger companies in your area that do the same as you, doesn’t mean your business is not valid. Some clients actively prefer the personal touch that comes with dealing with the same person consistently; they seek out the small business. You need to remember that you have your own set of unique selling points and that is your advantage. You need to focus on your services and offering them to the best of your ability, and you will find there is a massive amount of customer loyalty out there.
Bad Days Happen
However, with that in mind, even doing your best can lead to a bad day. Bad days happen to everyone. It doesn’t matter what line of work you are in, whether you work for yourself or are a faceless soul in a sea of thousands in a giant corporation, it happens. People make mistakes; customers are foul, this is just life. Try not to beat yourself up if you screw up. Try and remember that a problematic client might actually be dealing with something awful at home. Bad days are not a reason to throw in the towel, so try and shrug it off with that old adage that ‘tomorrow is another day’. On the subject of making mistakes, the best tactic is to own up, apologise, correct and move on. People generally understand that things sometimes go wrong so just be brave and move on.
The third tip is to ensure that you have support. It can be a lonely world, so whether you find other freelancers and working parents in a similar boat and create a networking group, or whether you have friends and family happy to step in, use your support. It can make all the difference in the world if you can voice your concerns to another person. They will be able to help you see why the anxiety voice is wrong and why you are doing an excellent job, but that is something we struggle to do for ourselves, so be sure to build in support somehow.