Mike Domitrz married father of 4 boys, as a critically-acclaimed speaker, author, subject matter expert, and media resource, Mike Domitrz has been inspiring individuals with his passion and energy for over 2 decades.
Mike Domitrz is known for the impact his programs, trainings, and publications have made across the world for parents, teenagers, families, educational institutions, the US military, and the media. You may have seen him as the featured expert on Dateline NBC’s “My Kid Would Never Do That.”
While Mike became known for originally founding and growing The DATE SAFE Project (an organization focused on teaching Respect and Consent), his passion for wanting to learn more about mindfulness has become a driving force in his life.
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Sophie Walker is a married mother of two children aged 4 and 6 years old. Sophie original lived in London, Croydon now lives in a small town near the beach in Yorkshire. In this Interview, Sophie talks about how she copied with postnatal depression and sleep deprivation and how this birthed her business, Attentive Art.
Attentive Art provides mindful creativity tools to help people to tune into what is really going on in their lives. It is a meditative art experience for people who don’t get on with conventional meditation. You don’t have to be creative or ‘good’ at art either. We currently have a range of art kits to music and a free eBook. There are more kits, courses, and workshops in the pipeline; all designed to help you to get back in touch with yourself while relaxing and having fun.
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One of the biggest issues, when running your own business and managing a family, is making sure that you have the right balance between working and resting.
It can often seem that you want to spend the daylight hours making sure your business is a success, and the rest of the time focused on your family. But does this leave enough time to actually rest in between?
Many people are likely to say no. With such demands on their time already coming from work, and life, there is no time left for anything else.
We are here to say it doesn’t have to be that way. In fact, you can achieve the perfect balance between working and resting, all it takes is some careful thought and planning.
Don’t believe us? Here are top tips for finding the perfect work/rest balance.
Know what you want out of all the aspects of your life
People really seem to underestimate goal setting, especially when it comes to their life goals. It makes sense to think about what you want to achieve in your career plans or business, but when did you last think about your family, your home, your personal life? You should treat these just like you would your job, and dedicate time and attention to making sure that you know exactly where you see your family heading in the future.
In doing this, you can plan in some me time. Perhaps to enjoy a spa day, or simply a nice long relaxing walk on a summers evening.
Try to minimise your stress
If you own your own business, then chances are that you are going to feel pretty stressed at times. It is important that this stress doesn’t filter too much over into the time you have to relax and unwind at the end of the day. Of course, stress is unavoidable, what is important is how you deal with it.
Try to tackle any problems head on, and never take them home with you. After all, your family don’t need to bear the brunt of your stress, and once the time has come to unwind, that should always be your priority.
Take a break
One of the things that people who are self-employed are guilty of is not taking holiday when they need to. This can be a huge mistake. You need to take a break away from working, just like you would if you were employed. Otherwise, your brain simply won’t turn off and relax when you need it to, and this won’t be a good idea.
It is possible to achieve a work/rest balance and balance working with your family. All it takes is some careful thought and some time to yourself, and you will have exactly what you need to make a success of both worlds.
Whilst working at home can be packed full of benefits, one of the biggest drawbacks is the feeling of loneliness that sometimes occur. Thankfully like many problems, being lonely is fixable.
So, if you are feeling a little alone, here are 5 ways that you can wave those feelings goodbye.
Pop the radio on
Sometimes all you need is a bit of background noise to help you to feel a little less lonely. The TV can be a bit too much of a distraction, but the radio, on the other hand, can help to curb those feelings of being completely alone.
Give someone a call or Skype
One of the biggest drawbacks to working at home is not having anyone to talk to. If this is definitely true for you, then why not make the effort to take to someone? You may not be able to get outside and meet someone face to face, but you can pick up your phone. You could even Skype or video call if you are really feeling lonely.
Go for a walk outside
Being cooped up in the house can be tricky, so, if you need to escape for a moment then consider getting outside and having a walk. Not only is it a change of scenery, but it will make sure that you feel instantly rejuvenated and ready to get back to the laptop and carry on working.
Sit somewhere that has plenty of light
The amount of light that is in a room can be a huge factor in how you feel. So, if you can, try to sit in a room that has plenty of natural light. You don’t want it to be too bright, otherwise, you could spend far too long squinting. But just enough to make sure that you absorb some vitamin D, as well as be able to see the outside world.
Work in a different environment
Changing up where you work from time to time can have a huge impact on your mood. Some people spend some of their time working from home, as well as working in a shared office space. Others may take their laptops and head to a local coffee shop. The trick is to find a way that you can still concentrate on the things that you need to do. But still, have the background noise of other people going about their lives.
Being lonely doesn’t feel great, especially if you are stuck at home working. The thing that is important to remember, is that it doesn’t have to be that way. There are things that you can do to minimise those feelings of loneliness and have yourself back in the real world in no time.
One of the biggest issues faced by those who run their own business is a lack of time. It will often feel like there are 100s of tasks that need to be done, and only a couple of hours to do them in.
You may think that you are alone, but a virtual assistant might just be the ideal solution to help you out. As the name suggests, a virtual assistant is someone who can give you remote assistance in a number of tasks.
But what tasks can a VA help with? Here are a list of 5 simple things that you can outsource their way.
Managing your email
Do you find yourself spending far too much time reading through the emails that you receive every day? Only find a few that actually need you to action them? A virtual assistant can really help you by rifling through all the emails that you receive on a daily basis and only highlight the ones that you need to respond to.
Are you a type of business that has customers booking in for appointments? Why not hand over managing this diary to a virtual assistant. They can make sure that your calendar is nice and full and that you can spend time actually working with your clients rather than simply booking in an appointment.
Do you have an extensive list of customers that you need to keep track of? Why not make sure that the management of your CRM software is taken on by a VA? They can take any new details and add them into the system, as well as make sure that details are up to date too.
Manage your social media
Social media is a useful tool for promoting your business and engaging with your customers. However, its often something that you will neglect if you don’t have the time. Why not assign this task to a VA, getting them to upload posts and communicate with your followers?
Answer simple support tickets
Have you heard of a system called ZenDesk? ZenDesk transforms email enquiries into tickets. These tickets can then be allocated to particular people to answer. You could ask your VA if they are happy to take on this task and ensure that the simpler tasks to answer are given to them. Saving you enough time to be able to answer the larger questions.
By delegating some of the admin tasks that you have to do in your business you may find that you have made yourself a little bit more time. This means that you can focus on other aspects of running your business, and make sure that you achieve the success that you want!
Confidence is important when running a business, after all, it will be all down to you to make sure that it is a success. Not sure that you have the right confidence that you need to give it a go? Well, then let us help you.
We have put together some of the best ways that you can improve your own levels of self-confidence, best of all, they are quite simple to do on a daily basis.
Wear a bright colour
Colour can really help you to feel great about yourself. Especially yellow, which is linked to calming energy and brightening up your mood. If you are heading to an important meeting or need to secure a new client, perhaps add a touch of this sunshine hue to your outfit and you will soon be feeling ready to face the world.
The way that you walk and hold yourself can really project your levels of confidence. Try not to slump, and instead walk tall. This means that you will feel an instant lift to your mood, and people will see that you mean business.
Learn something new
By this we don’t mean take a home learning course, but instead just task yourself to learning something every day. There are a number of trivia apps out there that you can use to add into your knowledge. They deliver great facts in bite size portions, which means that you won’t have to take too much time out of your day to broaden your knowledge.
Look at all the things that you have achieved
Sometimes it can seem like you are no closer to your goal, especially in those earlier days of business. If you are starting to feel that you may not ever get there, then why not take a look at the things that you have ticked off your list. This will not only show how far you have come, but also give you the motivation to keep carrying on towards your other goals.
Ask for some help
If you are feeling the pressure and have had a confidence knock. Maybe it is time to ask someone for their help. It may come from a friend or a family member, no matter who it is, all you may need is someone who will be able to give you a bit of a boost and get you back on the right path.
Even if you are feeling unsure of yourself, confidence is a great way to make sure that you feel ready to face the world. It doesn’t matter how you find it, believing in what you can achieve is going to bring you ever close to your goal.
When you run your own business, chances are that you will feel that there simply isn’t any time left for anything else.
This is especially true during those early days when you will want to put everything into making sure that your dream is a success.
However, if you are trying to establish a business, alongside raising a family, life can become much more of a balancing act.
On one hand, you will be focused on your end business goal, and making that a reality, but on the other, you will want to be able to concentrate on and make time for your family.
But how do you do both?
We have put together some simple ways that you can make sure that you spend quality time with your family. Without it impacting too much on running your business.
Make sure you have dinner together
It may not be the most fun part of the day, but it is definitely a part of the day that you can spend together. You can talk about your day, ask questions, or simply just enjoy the quality time together, as well as a delicious meal.
Get your kids to help you with your daily tasks
Not a big fan of some of the household tasks that you have to carry out? Why not see if your kids can get involved? Need to do some gardening in the house? Give them a spade, Have some painting that needs doing? They will love getting messy with a paintbrush. If you feel that you don’t have as much time to spend with your kids as you would like, you will find ways to still spend time with them.
Try to do the school run as often as you can
One of the benefits of running your own business is that you can work the hours you need to. This isn’t always possible for some businesses of course, but if you can arrange to pick up the kids from school at least twice a week, they will look forward to those days and that little bit of extra time with you.
Schedule in a monthly day out
You can often find that you spend your time rushing around and that quality time as a family is few and far between. If this is true, then make sure your diary has one day a month that is scheduled as a family day. Go to the beach, visit the zoo or pop into a museum. Whatever you do for the day, do it with your family.
Turn your phone off
If you are planning on spending some time with your family, then make sure that you do this. Whether it is a day out with the kids or a dinner with your partner. Turn off the phone, ignore the emails and concentrate on those important people instead.
It is possible to balance running a business with spending good quality time with your family. It is simply a case of knowing when to do each one and making sure that you schedule in time for your family.
Working from home can be a great thing. It is perfect for achieving a work-life balance and cuts down on time spent commuting or travelling.
That said, working from home can also be difficult. There are plenty of distractions around to stop you from focusing on all the things that you need to get done, and you also rely solely on yourself for motivation.
So, how do you make sure that you work from home as effectively as possible? Here are 3 things that can help you to work from home.
A clearly defined working space
If you are finding it a struggle to work from home, then perhaps you need to give yourself some space to think and work. You may not be blessed with a spare room that you can work in, but chances are that you will have a spare corner that you can set up a desk for you to sit at during working hours.
It is a good idea to decorate this space a little differently to other parts of your house. Perhaps have a calendar and whiteboard on the wall by the desk, which shows you that you are at work and need to focus. You can also take advantage of the power of plants, they brighten up the space and detoxify the air around you, which will help you to feel healthy and be motivated to work.
A to-do list
You should never underestimate the power of a to-do list. Having all of the tasks written down that you need to do will give you focus on the tasks at hand. You will also have some idea of how you can plan out your day and what you need to do. Not only this, but there is nothing more satisfying than being able to tick off the tasks that you have finished, creating a visual tool to help focus on what you need to complete.
The way that you create or display your to-do list is down to you. Have it hanging on the wall, make a fancy spreadsheet or simply scribble it down in your diary. The main thing is just to have a list put together.
Still, try to communicate with the outside world
Working from home on a regular basis can feel like you are completely isolated and separate from the rest of the world. Communicating with those outside is key. If you are invited out for a coffee with friends and you can free the time then accept. Not only will it help you to keep on track with your friendships, but it will make sure that you take a good break from your work too. This break will help you to focus when you get back to your desk and also make you feel great too.
It doesn’t have to be difficult to motivate yourself when you work from home, just make sure that you follow these top tips and you are likely to find yourself getting absolutely everything done that you need to. All from the comfort of your own home.
Time management is a skill that many of us could improve on. This is especially true if you spend some of your time working from home, where you will need to make sure that you are more disciplined and focused on what you need to do.
As this isn’t something that comes naturally, we have put together 5 smart ways to improve your time management skills and make sure that you utilise all of the time that you have each and every day.
Always start the day prioritising work
You should always start your day by looking at the tasks that you have to do. List them as those that are less important, to those that require your immediate attention and focus. Know which tasks are time critical, and that need to be completed that day, and identify the ones that can be carried forward for the next day.
This will give you a clear focus and make sure that you get the work done that you need to.
Schedule your work, home and personal tasks
Even the best of us can fall victim to procrastination from time to time. This is even truer if you work from home where you are surrounded by things that need to be done. It isn’t easy to ignore housework, but it is a good idea to try and schedule in the time that you are going to do it. Planning on making a cup of tea? Load the washing machine while the kettle boils. Need to hoover? Get it done whilst your lunch is cooking.
By making sure you know when you will get those tasks done, you won’t be tempted to wander off and do them whilst you are supposed to be working.
Focus on one thing at a time
How many times have we heard ourselves say that we are good at multitasking? We often think that being able to juggle a wide variety of things is a positive thing. But the truth is, that multitasking can often hamper the way we manage our time. Rather than trying to split our focus on a variety of different tasks, we should focus on one thing at a time. This means the task will complete much quicker and you can move onto the next thing that you need to do.
Give yourself a break
It is vital that you take breaks during your working day. Otherwise, you will find yourself burning out and losing focus on the task at hand. Whether it is a 10 minute walk, a quick listen to music or a spot of exercise, giving yourself a break is a necessary part of time management.
Don’t give yourself too much to do
Sometimes having too much to do can lead you to feel that you are overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed can mean that you simply give up on the tasks that you need to do. It is vital that you learn to say no, and give yourself realistic targets, otherwise, you could find yourself not getting done what you need to.
Managing your time effectively is a key part of having a successful working day. So, make sure that you know the basics, and you will be sure to get everything that you need done.