This episode covers the importance of self-care some of us parents need to make self-care more of a priority. Like just think for a moment when did you last do something for you!
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We are judged all the time no matter what. Those judgments could come from our partners, our customers, our staffs…Frankly, everyone on Earth makes judgements, even you. Who you are, what you stand for, what you did, what’s your history…everything related to you is on the radar of judgment. Somehow, judging other people make us feel better but we don’t always understand that it can have negative consequences. If you think about it, you will realise that you judge people as much as you get judged by them.
But being judged by other people is never a good feeling. It makes us angry, stress, and compromises confidence. Worst case, it can damage your mental health and destroy your career. So how could we get rid of that? Will you try to make everybody love you? Or try to overcome that judgement and live a happy life. An easy choice for some but difficult for others as it all comes down to a personal approach.
You cannot make everyone happy, that much is true. And the quantity of judgement you get will only increase exponentially as your business grow. Instead of that, make yourself happy. Live your life as it should be. Be a generous leader and set a good example for your staff. Let people understand your true personality and the jealousy and the fear of judgments will disappear in no time. People will never stop to gossip, so why should you try to swim against the current?
What is the secret to coping with it then? If you genuinely think it is unfair and it is doing damage to your business then you can talk to them. But before the talk, make it clear that your intentions are to learn and to understand not to blame someone. You have to be genuine and express that you are willing to listen. No doubt the final decision is always yours, you decide if what they think about you is worth your time or not. But make up your mind only after listening to their reasons not coming to conclusions immediately.
The best option though is to take it as a lesson and improve from what you can gather as constructive feedback. There are 2 types of judgements, malicious and constructive, the latter is actually very useful for the development of your business. Malicious feedbacks is completely unavoidable especially if you run your business through the internet, you will quickly learn that people can be nasty for absolutely no reason. Your best choice here is to ignore. However, if you feel that the judgement is actually constructive, you can take it to heart and listen to their concerns. This way, you can transform the negative energy that judgement creates into something positive fueling the growth of your business.
Another thing you should observe is that judgements always have a purpose and are always rooted in some form of negative experience the individual has towards you. This doesn’t always have to be related to the subject of judgement and could have been built up from a collection of negative experiences in the past. There are many psychological and sociological studies by universities aimed at understanding the root of our judgements, usually, it has to come down to jealousy or personal insecurity which can even be completely unrelated to your business at all!
To conclude, judgements are unavoidable, and as your business grows you will have to deal with it more and more. Do not swim against the river, but rather swim towards the current. Confronting the source of judgement may risk worsening the issue so it is always better to be the bigger person and take it constructively (or ignore if it’s malicious). You should also remember that sometimes you feel that someone is judging you but it may actually not be the case! Some people just talk like that and they may actually mean well!
As entrepreneurs, we all dream of a work-life balance plan. But is it even possible? That’s a million dollar question and the answer depends from person to person. Many people take that as a priority when thinking about starting their own business. The more you spend on your business, the more you earn, but the less you “live” so what is the point of earning? A typical schedule of eight working hours, eight for sleeping and eight for social relations, hobbies other activities does not always work out. Too many situations that can’t wait happens every day, even at night and especially when you own a business. So how should a business owner like you spend the time to work? Instead of an unrealistic plan, you could give yourself a forgiving approach to a work-life balance.
Set Priorities, Not Boundaries and Keep Everything Flexible
Fixed working hours will make you exhausted in no time. Try to adjust your working time based on priorities, not boundaries. For example, there is a new project requiring more than 10 hours working time per day for a few weeks. No way you could just leave it there and go home at five because you will soon realise that you cannot make the deadline. But if you stay and spend your time on it, well, that is exactly how stress takes over life. The solution is you can plan everything beforehand including your working hours. Unlike everyone, an entrepreneur can decide how he spends time on his/her own without a boss breathing down your neck. And that should depend on how you feel about the job. What matters most? Would you like to take a rest to gain more energy before doing it or you prefer to finish it off first and get rest later. No matter what your choice is. A flexible plan will do you no harm and gives you a lot of room to manoeuvre should a new priority come up.
Get Rid Of Guilt
After a long hard-working day you get a lot done but when you look back there is still more job that needs to be done, you run out of energy but you feel guilty to get a rest or you are just too focus on the job and ignore how exhausted you are. Turns out the result is not as good as you expected if you push yourself beyond your limit. That’s a common problem among entrepreneurs.
Stress and exhaustion can affect the quality of work, you probably know this already. A short break will raise the morale of your team as well as your own energy. Let your team and yourself leave a little bit earlier or maybe take a coffee break are choices to overcome stress and exhaustion. You can choose to work at home in the evening or early morning instead of cramming in more hours throughout the day. Clear your priorities and get some rest, then get back to work.
Be Honest With Yourself and Others
Last but not least is choosing your working hours honesty. Working whenever you want is maybe easy if you are single or have not established a family. But having a family is a whole new level of commitment that you need to balance. Be open and share with your family. Promise that you will spend time with them and keep your words. If you have to work, tell them honestly and help them understand that it is necessary. That way you can get your family involved in the process to help you balance with life. Though it is not entirely healthy to not spend time with your children, at least they will understand and will even support you by not adding stress from worrying.
Being a parent and running a business is not easy but things can be even harder if you are a single parent, some of you listening in may have been married or were in a relationship that it did not work out for whatever reason it may be hard being a single parent running a business but it is not impossible.
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In this post, I am going to share with you my current favourite top 4 podcasts. I’m really excited to share my list with you because over the years I have learned so much from listening to podcasts. I remember when my sister first introduced me to them I was like a child in a sweet shop, picking different ones to listen to as I was working at my desk or driving.
I have put together the names of the podcasts, a description, why I enjoy listening to them and all the links so you can subscribe and listen in too.
1. AskPat: Your Online Business, Blogging, Marketing and Lifestyle Design Questions Answered Daily!
Pat Flynn says he is a regular guy who happens to be a successful online entrepreneur. Pat also has another podcast show called Smart Passive Income. He is the author of the following books – Will It Fly?: How to Test Your Next Business Idea So You Don’t Waste Your Time and Money and Let Go I have read Will It Fly, and I highly recommend it for anyone who is thinking of starting a business.
Each episode features an actual question submitted by a business owner or someone who is starting up. What I love, yes love, about AskPat is that people will ask a variety of questions and Pat will answer. I listen in daily and often someone will ask a question to do with a business that sets a light bulb off in my head. Pat answers each question in as much depth as possible and points listeners to further tools and resources that they can access in relation to the question that was asked. Another cool feature with AskPat is that everyone who submits a question that he answers gets a free t-shirt. I have not yet asked Pat a question but I plan to.
What you will learn from AskPat is online business, entrepreneurship, internet marketing, audience building, passive income, blogging, list building, virtual assistants, start-ups, search engine optimisation, email marketing and so much more.
2. Online Marketing Made Easy with Amy Porterfield
Amy Porterfield shows you exactly how to monetise your online marketing and blogging efforts using her own tested, actionable lead generation strategies. Amy’s podcasts often feature guests who share information on how they launched a program, the challenges they faced and how they overcame them. Rick Mulready has been on Amy’s podcast – he is the go-to-guy on Facebook ad strategies.
What I love most about Amy’s podcast is that each episode teaches the listener a lesson and she offers a free downloadable worksheet with each one. When I listen to Amy’s podcast I make sure I have my notebook handy as I always learn something new. Amy also offers various courses – I have done her list builders lab training course and give it 10/10. What I learned on that course I have implemented in my business.
What you will learn from Amy’s podcast is how to create an online course, video marketing, webinar recording, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, YouTube, new content creation (including eBooks, guides and cheat sheets) and email marketing.
3. The MFCEO Project by Andy Frisella
The MFCEO Project is for anyone who is sick of the fluffy unicorn and rainbows style of talking about pursuing goals and profiting in business. The MFCEO project features sidekick Vaughn Kohler and each week he interviews guest entrepreneur millionaires who share their lessons for success.
I’ve been listening to The MFCEO for about three months and what I will say to you parents who plan to listen to it – have your headphones on, no loudspeaker for this podcast (haha). Andy keeps it so real, he puts you in check as well as motivating you with thought-provoking phases. On days when I might feel unmotivated, I re-listen to The MFCEO episodes – trust me I soon feel motivated again.
4. Soulful PR Podcast with Janet Murray |PR|Marketing|Social Media
Janet Murray has spent fifteen years writing and editing for national newspapers and magazines such as The Guardian, Telegraph, Independent, Times, Sun and Daily Mail. Janet Murray is my go-to person for all things to do with PR. I have attended Janet’s ‘Your Year In PR’ 1-day workshop, I bought her media diary and book Your Press Release is Breaking My Heart. Oh yes, did I mention I am also in her Facebook group, which I might add has an awesome community.
What you will learn from this podcast is how to get PR for your business that will help you grow your email list, social media followers and client list. You’ll hear inspiring interviews with entrepreneurs who are using traditional PR alongside blogging, webinars, email marketing and social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram and YouTube to attract leads and grow their business. If you’re an entrepreneur wanting to get coverage in newspapers, magazines, and on radio & TV, this is for you.
Working from home is the ideal for so many people. The ability to manage your own time, be in the comfort of your own home and achieve the perfect work/life balance.
However, if you ask anyone who works from home what the biggest drawback is, then staying productive comes somewhere near the top of the list. With so many distractions and only yourself to motivate, well yourself, it can be tricky to keep going with your tasks. So, with this in mind, we have put together our top tips on how you can make sure that you stay productive when you are working from home.
Make sure you get dressed
There may very well be times that you want nothing more to stay in your PJs all day, and at times this is great. But sometimes you are going to need to put your grown-up clothes on. By doing this you are creating a sense of being ready for the working day. You don’t need to wear a suit and tie, but just make sure that nothing you have is something you would lounge about in during the evening.
Take a commute
If you work a 9-5 in an office, then chances are that you will need to commute to and from the office every day. This time gives you the opportunity to wake up and get ready for the day ahead of you. You may want to take this approach if you work from home.
After getting up and getting dressed, take a short walk. Even if it is just around the street and back. This will kick-start your brain into the idea of working and get you ready for the day.
Employ a do not disturb approach
Your family can be distracting, especially children. So, it is a good idea to try and employ a “do not disturb” approach when you are trying to work. That doesn’t mean you should ignore them of course, instead, have things to distract your children (or your partner if they are just as irritating) whilst you get those all important tasks done.
Have an office
Many people find that having a dedicated space in your home for work is the perfect way to get things done. This is great if you are lucky enough to have a spare room. For those people that are not quite so blessed, they may need to rethink the idea of an office. Set up a corner of the room that is your “office” and make sure that you have all the right equipment that you need.
But don’t always work in the office
If you are finding yourself going stir crazy at home, why not utilise other suitable working spaces? Coffee shops are perfect for those people who work from home on a regular basis, giving you a lively space to work in, that doesn’t offer too many distractions (not to mention great tasting drinks too).
Have a routine
One of the best things you can do for yourself when you work from home is set up a regular routine and stick to it. There will be times when you need to finish early or work
Listening in to this episode to know how to recognise and avoid burnout, most people experience burnout at least once in their life, some of us experience it more than once recognising the signs of burnout is important, so we know when to slow down and take timeout.
Being a parent and being an entrepreneur isn’t always easy, but things can get a whole lot harder if you are trying to balance being a single parent as well as creating your own enterprise.
That said, just like many things in life, simply because something is hard, it isn’t impossible.
With this in mind, we have put together some of our top tips for single parent entrepreneurs. Ways that you can effectively run your business, whilst still managing to look after your family.
Make sure you are organized
If you are running a business and taking care of your kids, then your diary is going to be your new best friend. Whether this is a virtual calendar or a good old fashioned write it down approach, you need to be on top of your time.
Realistically look at all the thing that you need to achieve each and every day, both at work and in your home, and use that as your organizational tool, planning out your time.
That way you can be sure to achieve more with the time that you do have.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Even superheroes need a side-kick and single parents who are trying to juggle their time will also need some support from those around them. Even if you are raising your children alone, there is a good chance that you will have a network of friends and family around you to lend a hand.
This could be occasionally picking the kids up from school when you need to attend a meeting, or even helping out with some admin tasks to keep your business on track.
Sometimes you just need to swallow your pride and simply ask for help.
Always try to be positive
There is a good chance that sometimes things will be hard. Try not to let these things get on top of you. Instead remain positive and keep your chin up.
We all face hardships, but it is how we react to them and pull ourselves through that shapes who we are. Remember all the great things that you have going on, and how much of an inspiration that you are for your children, and soon things will seem that much brighter.
Remember that things will change
Nothing stays the same forever, especially in the world of parenting and business. Your kids will get older, and therefore easier to care for and as your business grows you will see the success that you deserve, and you may even be able to expand with more staff members.
You should be flexible and adaptable to these changes and think of them as exciting developments for the future.
Just because you are a single parent, it doesn’t mean that you cannot have career and business aspirations. Instead, you can find a way to balance the two perfectly, giving you the best of both worlds.
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When you are a parent working from home and building a business, it can be a real struggle keeping your children occupied while you try and get some work done. For parents who choose to work from home, there are many pros and cons. Listen in to this episode for ways to get your children involved in your business.
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